A crash course for Dad part 2

Now that you know the basics and the baby is well on it’s way, you might have a few more questions as things start to get real.

Q: How can I help during labor?

A: The most important thing is to support your partner in any way you can, and in the way she desires.  Sometimes labor is a long process and you might be in the hospital room for quite a while.  Bring things to help pass the time; games, movies, cards, whatever it is your partner would enjoy.  You can also help time her contractions, and massage her back and shoulders to help her relax in between contractions (if she wants this).  Once pushing starts, words of encouragement are always welcome.  If you want to be involved with cutting the cord, make sure that your delivering physician knows prior to delivery.  As long as baby appears healthy, we are happy to accommodate this special moment!  But remember, don’t be a tough guy, if you feel weak or light-headed sit down.

Q: When is it time to go home from the hospital?

A: Typically, after a vaginal delivery babies are ok to go home 24-48 hours later.  If a cesarean section is required, mom might need to stay a little longer for pain control, usually 3-4 days. 

Q: Can I be involved in breast-feeding?

A: Well, obviously, some parts, no.  Some partners do not want you to be involved, but some partners love for the dad to help bring her the baby for feeding, burp and change the baby after, and then rock the baby to sleep.  If your partner is also pumping, or is bottle-feeding; you can help with feedings from bottles.

Q: What about depression?

A: It is very common for moms to feel sad or anxious after delivery.  Mild feelings of this are called postpartum blues.  Typically these only last one to two weeks.  If her symptoms are more extreme, or last longer, it could be postpartum depression, which is a more serious condition.  If you feel this is occurring, it is important to contact your OB/GYN.  Some signs include the blues getting worse, or lasting for too long, feelings of sadness that interrupt normal routine, mom cant care for herself or her baby, changes in appetite, decreased pleasure, and many other things.  The most concerning sign would be thoughts of self-harm or suicide, which while rare, is obviously very serious.  If ANY of these occur, or you are concerned as a Dad, it’s ok for you to be the one to call your OB/GYN’s office!

Q: Last, when can we have sex again?

A: In general we recommend no intercourse for 6 weeks after delivery….sorry